When my third sister started to lose weight, it changes my mum's perception that being thin is beautiful, she started to nag me about losing weight too. I am a very active person, I jog at night, I play volleyball, sometimes I go to the gym, I do go trekking and mountain climbing when I have time and believe it or not, I don't eat much. This contradict to what my sister is doing, she is losing weight by using a traditional product, and it works, thus making my mum to constantly remind me to do same. Honestly, sometimes I do contemplate to put myself through what my sister is doing, but most the time I just ignore it. What is the use of being thin but not fit, you look beautiful but you don't have stamina. I don't blame my mum, we are living a very '"rupalistik" society, where women are always objectified by advertisements that emphasize that beauty of a woman is by how they look.
I accept how I look, for me I look beautiful and sexy. I carry myself like it is nobody's business.
And I am writing this entry because today the "makciks" here at my office, reminded me how beautiful I am. Everytime I wear my corporate attire (blouse, slacks and heels), they would pat my back, and said, 'Anak nampak cantik bangat!" Kinda boost my self confident towards my own physical appearance. Hahaha...And it really made my day. (",)
I may not beautiful for some, but there are others who thinks that I am just perfect the way I am.
I may not beautiful for some, but there are others who thinks that I am just perfect the way I am.
3 comments:
I think it's great that you're looking at your Mum's nagging in a positive light; even if you don't agree with it. She is afraid that if you don't fit society's ideal of appearance, you'll never land a man. And if you never land a man, then people will tell her that it's because of how you look.
Now, don't kill me yet. I'm not trying to get your dander up. It is likely that like many mums, she wants to see you happily settled and have what other women have because she thinks that's what you need.
But of course you know better. Marriage and children are like icings on top of a redolently rich cake, spiced with knowledge, studded with the almonds of joy and goodwill and all other good and delicious stuff. Many don't think that the cake is good enough without the icing. But I think that kind of thinking can be pretty kufur in appreciating the nikmat that Allah SWT has granted us.
He has given us wealth (even though we are no Warren Buffet), good health, comfortable lifestyle and good family and friends. If one can have more than this, good. But this is pretty good enough, especially when you compare with people who are in a lesser position. Even those who are married may not be as happy and contented as you and I.
I also love it that you basically just smile and say, "Yes, mummy."
And go on do your thing.
BTW, I am impressed by your stamina. I think it is more important that you are healthy and energetic; you get more out of life than the wan looking ones. I shall aspire to be more like you.
*berazam untuk exercise lagi*
You are beautiful, darling. Never let anyone tell you otherwise.
I have a certain motivation for keeping healthy and fit, and most of the activities I do are the one I am passionate in.
I guess my mum is feeling the heat of peer pressure, having daughters but none are married, if smiling and saying "yes mum" reassured her, that the least I can offer for now. Like you said I am contented with my life now, I am in good health, stable career, amazing friends real and even virtual, and the most important is a strong and good support system, my family.
U have my utmost support. hehe.Lets go trekking sometimes, you, me and even zue@martian.
inner beauty is important....but people nowadays tend to look from outside and give stupid comments...as long as you're healthy...don't mind wht other people said about u.....
I used to be in tht shoes. It does hurt.....
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