A friend cried today for the sole reason of contemplating whether she is going to be married to the man she loves.She went through a lot, and due to her age marriage is something she is longing for. Emotionally, she is a wreck but she hide it so that people won't sympathize on her current condition. Even I don't prefer to listen to people say "Kesian nya","Banyak bersabar", it makes me sound so helpless. I guess she feels the same way too.
When it comes to the issue of relationship, even I don't know what to say, or do. I am a bit unlucky in that department. All I can do was just listen so that she know she has someone to confide in.
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you are right. the phrase "banyak bersabar" is not a solution as one is already patiently dealing with their problems as we speak.
The more they say that, they more I would feel sorry for myself.. I don't prefer self pity..
so what will u do nas?
i personally didnt like the phrase either but somehow i believe they have said like that to calm the person...not all people have the courage to say good things...so embrace it :)
I appreciate it. But in the case of my friend is doesn't work, in the end she cried thinking how helpless she is.
Even me nurul, the more I heard "sabar jodoh ada" I feel a bit annoyed, sbb I know I am not married, just don't rub it in.
I miss u btw...hehehe
A lot of people thing parroting such platitudes means they are comforting the person in distress.
IT IS NOT COMFORTING, DAMMIT.
If you can't think of something more positive to say, then it is better to just shut up.
When it comes to such issues, sometimes silence is better. Let her vent and provide a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes challenges come to test our perseverance, but know that God never gave us more than we can bear.
The issue of marriage is a thorny one after a certain age. Luckily, I am able to just make a joke of it when someone brings it up, but it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, you know. But there is no need to show your tender underbelly to others.
Thanks snuze.. Sometimes people just need to let it off their chest. Because when it comes to love, they can't just think straight.
In terms of marriage issue,normally I would just smile and make silly comments because once u entertain it, it will be a never ending question.
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